Hello New Yorkers & Ex-New Yorkers,
I'm glad to have this opportunity to blog about this topic. It's been on my mind for a while now and I'm grateful to have found this site. Any comments are welcome.
I've lived in New York for almost 11 years. Out of the 11 years, two of the years I've lived elsewhere - a year in South America in 2008/09 and a year in LA in 2003/04. I've always returned to NYC but now I'm thinking of leaving for good.
There are some wonderful things about being here. I love the diversity and the fact that I interact with people from all over the world on a regular basis. If it was feasible to maintain a place in NYC and somewhere else, I'd definitely do it. I think NYC is a great place if you're not here full time. But the daily grind in NYC can be exhausting.
When I first moved here, I was 32 and in a different phase of life. New York has taught me a great deal about being independent, especially emotionally. Over time, I made good friends. In the 11 years I've lived here, I've never had a relationship. That's both good and not-so-good. Personally, I've always felt out of synch with the dating scene and now that I'm 43, dating has totally changed for me. I tried online and speed dating briefly, but it wasn't me and it didn't yield great results. I like to meet people in a natural way over time and I think that's virtually impossible here. (Maybe I'm being pessimistic.) Being alone has been of great benefit but I'm wondering if it's time to move somewhere else where the pace of life is slower and it's easier to get to know people naturally.