Hello New Yorkers & Ex-New Yorkers,

I'm glad to have this opportunity to blog about this topic. It's been on my mind for a while now and I'm grateful to have found this site. Any comments are welcome.

I've lived in New York for almost 11 years. Out of the 11 years, two of the years I've lived elsewhere - a year in South America in 2008/09 and a year in LA in 2003/04. I've always returned to NYC but now I'm thinking of leaving for good.

There are some wonderful things about being here. I love the diversity and the fact that I interact with people from all over the world on a regular basis. If it was feasible to maintain a place in NYC and somewhere else, I'd definitely do it. I think NYC is a great place if you're not here full time. But the daily grind in NYC can be exhausting.

When I first moved here, I was 32 and in a different phase of life. New York has taught me a great deal about being independent, especially emotionally. Over time, I made good friends. In the 11 years I've lived here, I've never had a relationship. That's both good and not-so-good. Personally, I've always felt out of synch with the dating scene and now that I'm 43, dating has totally changed for me. I tried online and speed dating briefly, but it wasn't me and it didn't yield great results. I like to meet people in a natural way over time and I think that's virtually impossible here. (Maybe I'm being pessimistic.) Being alone has been of great benefit but I'm wondering if it's time to move somewhere else where the pace of life is slower and it's easier to get to know people naturally.

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Comment by Anna on February 21, 2012 at 6:38pm

Thanks for sharing your experience. Do you have any idea where you might like to move?

Comment by CMH on February 22, 2012 at 12:46am

I'm thinking about 3 possibilities: 1. Going to live in South America for a while (Colombia & Brazil), 2. Working in Dubai, or 3. Relocating to Tucson, AZ.  I'm leaning towards Tucson but South America is a close second.

Comment by CMH on February 22, 2012 at 12:48am

PS I saw your post(s) about Asheville.  I really like it there.  I lived there on two separate occasions for a total of 6 months.

Comment by Mari Brown on February 22, 2012 at 3:05pm

OK CMH--you need to keep us posted. South America, Dubai, or Tucson? I love the wide range of these choices. I vote for South America! Because I love it there!

Comment by CMH on February 22, 2012 at 4:07pm

I love South America too.  I'll do another blog in the next few days.  Just didn't want to write a lot all at once.  Staying or leaving a city like NYC is complicated after you've been here a long time.

Comment by Anna on February 22, 2012 at 4:51pm

What brought you to Asheville? Also, I'm curious - how is it that you keep getting to live in a variety of places for 6 months to a year? Sounds like a fun lifestyle! Does your career move you around?

Comment by CMH on February 23, 2012 at 2:33pm

Hi Anna,

I lived in Chapel Hill, NC for 4.5 years while getting my master's degree in occupational therapy.  Back in 1998, I lived in Asheville for 3 months when I did my first clinical.  The clinical did not go well and caused a lot of strife both personally and professionally.  I finished grad school and moved to NYC in 2001 but returned to Asheville for 3 months in the summer of 2002 so I could enjoy the area and the people without the stress that I previously experienced.  I've been self-employed in the health care field for a while so yes, I am able to move around.  Also, I'm single and have never married so I don't have children or a spouse to take into consideration.  That allows me more freedom in relocating.

Comment by Anna on June 25, 2013 at 9:54pm

Hey CMH - any update? Curious to know if you've moved any closer to leaving the city.


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