Came across this article in the Times today called The Psychology of Moving
, and it reminded me of something I've been thinking.
When we decided to do this travel thing, the focus was on the upheaval we would experience, how we would be breaking out of our settled lives in NYC. How would we deal with the lack of permanence?
But once we left, I realized that I had never felt truly settled in NYC anyway. I had lived in 4 apartments in 3 neighborhoods in 2 boroughs over 9 years - and I understood that none of these arrangements was anywhere near permanent. In each new place, there were completely different neighbors, restaurants, stores, and subway lines to learn. Even most of my belongings and furniture were different in each place.
And my number of moves is tiny compared to so many other New Yorkers! It seems like everyone just lives temporarily - waiting to trade up to a better deal, better location, or better roommate. And they only really commit to a place (and a couch) when it's baby time.
So renting furnished apartments in Austin for the past 4 months hasn't felt that much different. But it is making me realize how much I'm looking forward to finding a real home - both a residence and a community that feel permanent enough to justify that emotional investment, a commitment of time and energy. As one guy says in the article, "I always think about moving." I'm ready to stop thinking about moving, and start focusing on other aspects of my life.