I'm in Jacksonville, FL for my husband's job.  I love it here - my cute old house...my tropical walled garden that is cuter than any resto in the village...my easy commute, etc.  What has been hard for me is relating to people!  I say things, and I feel like people look at me like I have 3 heads.  If I knew what I was doing wrong, I could change, but I don't know!  I wonder if it's because I'm too open, critical, or straightforward?  I know I'm not crazy because when I go back to the city, I feel like people react to me like I am normal and sane.  Hmmm...has anyone else had this experience??

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Comment by Mari Brown on July 10, 2012 at 1:23pm

Hey Claire,

Aaaaaabsolutely. I think that when we lived in NY, we were much more direct, and that sometimes, out of NY, it can be translated as rude. That's why I like hanging out with other ex-New Yorkers sometimes!! :-)

Comment by Anna on July 10, 2012 at 4:00pm

Oh, gosh - so much. In fact, even growing up in WA I got those looks a lot - it wasn't until I was in New York that I finally felt like my sarcasm and directness fit in. So leaving I've experienced those "3-headed" looks all over again. Especially living in the South now where things (and conversations) tend to move a bit slower - I miss quick repartee. I agree with Mari that hanging out with other ex-New Yorkers is a breath of fresh air, and I've found a few other kindred spirits as well. But I've also sort of had to embrace my "quirks" as part of my identity here - maybe it helps me stand out a bit...?

Comment by Anne breitenstein on June 9, 2015 at 11:28pm
Hi Claire,

I realize this is years after your post, but maybe you're still there? I, too, lived in Jacksonville for my ex-husband's job. I had moved there from Pittsburgh, where I grew up. I found it very hard to relate to people. Only if you grew up in the South would you "get it".


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