I can't say I haven't thought about this... I find it extremely hard to meet men in NYC. Since moving here for undergrad in 2005, I have had a total of one quasi-serious relationship. For awhile, I felt like I was at least getting asked out on dates (most of them pretty horrific, truth be told) but now it seems like even that has slowed down... I don't want to say it's easier elsewhere, because I'm sure it isn't, but it seems like it has to be. Right?
I read this article in the NY post and I totally agree with it as well as the comment from Maggie. I think dating here is more challening then anwhere else. For people who want to have a casual affair, there's more options. I think guys, in particular, like to keep their options open. They don't want to be in a committed relationship because there's another beautiful woman around the corner. (I'm not saying this is true for all men, but there's a large percentage that fit this bill.) But whether you're gay, straight, or bi, I think there's high barriers to entering a relationship in NYC.